Giving support to your friend
when they have lost their pet

For many, the loss of a cat or dog represents as great a loss as a child or family member. Even those less dependent on their pets can be absolutely crushed by the loss. Too many people pass off a loss of a friend's pet as trivial. It is equated with the loss of a material item rather than a companion. When one of your friends has a pet die, you need to give them support.

What can you do?

First, let them know that you understand. Depending on your relationship, a hug, a pat on the shoulder a nice card or simply "I'm Sorry to hear about Barney" may be in order.
Talk about it, more over "Listen". The more they are able to express their feelings the better.
Ask if they intend to have any type of services and encourage them to do so. Most people contend that a pet funeral is frivolous and many that would like to do something, will not because of social embarrassment. Discuss burial and cremation options.
A little can go a long way here. Simply offering to help dig a grave and being there to help lay a pet to rest is a huge gift of support. Be tactful though, make certain you are wanted and don't feel hurt if you are not. Often people would like to be alone. Maybe they would like you to dig the grave and leave. Use your judgment.
Contact mutual friends and let them know about the loss. Try to explain the importance of support.
You may want to pass around the hat and put together a fund. Depending on the situation there are different options. You can purchase an Urn or pet memorial.or donate money to a animal welfare charity.
Do not surprise anyone with a kitten or puppy. The grieving process can take time and only one person knows when they are ready for a new pet. Besides that, careful personal consideration must go into the choice of a pet and you are not the one to make that decision. Often a person will resent a replacement pet as inadequate to fill the place of their lost companion. Not to mention raising a pet is a heck of a lot of work.